To be a good friend, each temperament must learn to lead with their natural gifts while consciously softening their “sharp edges”. Here are guidelines to encourage each colour to master the art of friendship.

Ten Friendship Commandments for Yappy Yellow (how to use your warmth and energy to be a better friend)

1. Be an encourager: Use your natural optimism (not toxic positivity!) to lift friends up when they are feeling defeated.
2. Practice the 10-minute rule: Before sharing your own news, spend the first 10 minutes focused entirely on your friend’s life.
3. Master the calendar: Your biggest weakness is unreliability; use digital reminders to ensure you don’t let a friend down.
4. Listen without performing: Resist the urge to turn every conversation into a funny story where you are the lead actor.
5. Go beyond the surface: Challenge yourself to talk about deep stuff, more serious topics and even challenging issues, rather than always keeping things light and fun.
6. Respect quiet spaces: Recognise that your high energy can be draining for others; learn to enjoy more calm and quiet times with a friend.
7. Follow through on small promises: If you say something like “I’ll call you later,” make sure you actually do.
8. Don’t be a fair-weather friend: Lean in when things get messy; don’t disappear just because the mood has turned serious or sad.
9. Guard your tongue: Curb the impulse to share secrets; your desire to entertain can lead to gossip which can cause pain to others and yourself.
10. Acknowledge your mistakes: When you forget an event or hurt a feeling, offer a sincere apology instead of making a joke out of it – and don’t just say it, show how you are going to make amends for the hurt or loss.

Ten Friendship Commandments for Raving Red (how to use your drive and loyalty to be a better friend) 

1. Be the practical protector: Use your problem-solving skills to help friends navigate life’s obstacles and crises.
2. Lower the volume: Be mindful of your tone; what feels like passionate debate or useful advice to you often feels like angry shouting or bossy interference to others.
3. Ask, don’t command: Instead of telling a friend how to fix their life, ask: “Would you like my advice, or do you just need to vent?”.
4. Celebrate others’ wins: Don’t turn your friend’s success into a competition; let them have the spotlight without one-upping them.
5. Practice vulnerability: Show your friends your softer side; it builds trust and proves you aren’t an indestructible robot.
6. Slow down for the slow: Be patient with friends who process information or make decisions more slowly than you do.
7. Give compliments freely: You notice excellence, now start saying it out loud, because your validation means more than most.
8. Drop the grudge: You tend to cut people off when they fail you; learn the art of giving your friend a second chance.
9. Admit when you are wrong: Acknowledging a mistake doesn’t make you weak; it makes you a safe person to be around.
10. Value the journey, not just the goal: Enjoy the simple act of hanging out without needing the time spent together to be productive.

Ten Friendship Commandments for Groovy Green (how to use your peace and stability to be a better friend) 

1. Be the safe space: Lean into your gift for listening; make your friends feel heard and never judged.
2. Take the initiative: Don’t wait for others to contact you and reach out first; it shows your friends they are actually a priority.
3. Find your voice: Friends can’t accommodate your needs if they don’t know what they are; speak up about your preferences, likes and dislikes.
4. Overcome passive-aggressiveness: If you are upset, say it directly, because going cold, distant or silent is hurtful to those who care about you.
5. Show enthusiasm: Your low-key nature can look like boredom or disinterest; occasionally, show some outward excitement for your friend’s big news.
6. Stop postponing problems: Address conflicts when they are small rather than letting them build up until you feel like quitting the friendship.
7. Be the mediator: Use your natural diplomacy to help resolve tensions within your friend group.
8. Avoid getting stuck in a comfort zone: Don't let your love for routine prevent you from joining a friend on a new or slightly scary adventure.
9. Follow through on energy: When you commit to a social event, show up with the intention to engage, not just to observe.
10. Be reliable, not just present: Being a friend requires active participation; don't just be there, be involved.

Ten Friendship Commandments for Brilliant Blue (how to use your depth and devotion to be a better friend

1. Be the soulful confidant: Use your emotional depth to sit with friends in their darkest hours; you are the best at “weeping with those who weep”, but remind yourself not to wallow indefinitely and also voice hope at the appropriate time.
2. Lower the bar: Perfectionism is for projects (and actually not even then), not people and you must really allow your friends to be messy and flawed without judging them.
3. Stop mind-reading: Don’t assume a friend is mad at you just because they haven’t texted back; ask for clarity before spiralling into negative emotions.
4. Lighten the mood: You don’t have to be deep and serious all the time and it’s okay and healthy to just be silly and have fun with your friends as well.
5. Share your internal world: Don’t hide your struggles behind a cool, calm and collected mask; let your friends support you, too.
6. Curb your critical eye: You see every detail, but you don’t have to point out every flaw in your friend’s plans, projects or appearance.
7. Share your struggles: When you’re feeling down, don’t withdraw entirely and tell a friend: “I’m struggling, but I’d still like to see you”.
8. Be thoughtful with details: Use your great memory to remember birthdays, anniversaries, and small things your friends mentioned months ago.
9. Focus on the positive: Make a conscious effort to mention three things you appreciate for every one thing you complain about.
10. Trust the connection: Believe your friends when they say they love you; don’t expect or make them constantly prove their loyalty to you.